Introduction

As the other mother in a lesbian relationship preparation is proving to be difficult. Books can be very informative, opinionated and biased we can research how long or heavy a baby will be at 10.5 weeks, how it will miraculously already have ears, eyes, a heartbeat. What we can’t predict is how each other feels or what our future holds…

In advance of Due-Day I wanted to know everything, I wanted to try and make it a little easier.

A baby fills a place in your heart that you never knew was empty. — Author unknown

After looking for literature to help broaden my understanding only to find an abundance of scientific and factual material. Guidance for the birth mother. A handful for dads to be and nearly nothing for lesbian couples. It occurred to me, with the help of a know-it-all mother that I could capture my thoughts and feelings and use them as a later reference. Hence this blog.

Whilst I may still be a woman I am a family and pregnancy virgin furthermore a small person isn’t about to apply pressure to my bladder, stretch marks to my skin and appear through the opening of my vagina. I will be eternally grateful for my significant other for bringing life into the world and the least I can do is be empathetic with her pain and emotions and try to understand the physiological changes.

This is my opinionated and emotional account of pregnancy stages as a mother to be, without the magical pregnancy process setting camp in my uterus.

Whilst I may make references to others along the journey only my personal experiences are factual. I cannot be accountable for others’ thoughts, emotions or reactions.